Unanswered questions

You hear some stories and think that they are so strange or peculiar to particular persons. When I heard Amah’s story, I wanted to believe that it was a once in a very long time kind of story. Then, the second story of Estee and her sister dropped.  Now, I just received a similar story and I am wondering what the world is coming to.

Neye who was married to Obili lived with her younger sister Glo. She later discovered that Glo who she accommodated and took very good care had been sleeping with her husband Obili.

In this case, Glo and Obili shamelessly owned up to the affair and confirmed that they had no plans to end it. Glo went on to have a baby for Obili who stood by her and asked his wife to either accept Glo as a co-wife or leave. It took Neye a while to get over the shock of the betrayal from her husband and sister but when she did, she quietly left her matrimonial home to start a new life with her two children in another country.

I am happy that Neye came out of this terrible experience a stronger person; it takes a really strong person to walk away from drama. Unlike many others who have been betrayed by loved ones, she found the strength to move on. She knew that she had to live for her children. She realised the importance of staying alive for her them.

Glo and Obili still live together as a couple with their child. I understand betrayal when it comes from a friend or even a spouse but when it comes from a family member; it is very hard to comprehend. Neye and Glo are blood sisters; aren’t sisters supposed to love and look out for each other. The two sisters do not speak; they have not said a word to each other ever since the affair was exposed.

Their mother was there to render her omugwo services when Glo had a baby. Hmm, some mothers do have them. Was that the right thing to do? Come to help your wayward daughter look after a child she had for her own sister’s husband?

Istill have some unanswered questions;

·         Will the children from the two sisters be cousins or step siblings?

·         We are always advised to hear both sides of the story, will there ever be a justification for sleeping with your sister’s husband, having a baby for him and living with him?

·         Who is the main culprit here, the man or the sister?

·         How does Glo sleep at night knowing that she hurt her sister deeply, knowing that she took her sister’s husband from her and destroyed her home?

·         How does she pray to God? And does God answer her prayers?

·         Was Neye wrong to have left her marriage?

Often times, the society blames the women, people will almost want to crucify the sister, she is wicked, she is a witch, and she can kill and so on. The man who in my view is the monster here stands in a corner and hides under some of the notions we have erroneously conceived for our men. Igbo people will say “Amu ejero akwukwo” (the penis is uneducated). And so instead of blaming the man, they blame the penis. I maintain that some women are very vulnerable; they are easily enticed by little things. In my opinion, in all the stories except Amah’s story, the sisters are not wicked; they are just blatantly stupid and a bit retarded. They may not even know that they have done anything wrong.

Amah’s sister had a motive and carefully plotted a plan. She wanted what her sister had out of sheer greed.

Women please receive some sense, if you are in such a relationship; the time to quit is now! Retrace your steps and make amends. One good word is enough for the wise!

Note: As usual, fictitious names have been used in this story. ( had to edit)