Love and not fight

Why will two adults decide that it is okay to fight publicly? I will never understand, as much as I love to watch live fights, I always pray that nothing ever makes me fight whether publicly or privately. Who will I even fight in private, my husband? With one hand he will send me to an early grave.

The reason I enjoy to watch people fight is that it makes me laugh and I’ll give anything for a good laugh. Today, in a popular supermarket two men suddenly started arguing about who was first on the queue. They both had their partners by their sides; one looked like a wife while the other looked like a girlfriend. The one who looked like a wife joined in the argument and obviously took her husband’s side while the one who looked like a girlfriend stood there quietly and stared.  She was a lot bigger and taller than the other woman and I just imagined her landing a blow on the woman’s face. Hahaha

Regrettably, before it turned into a full fight between the two small men, the management of the supermarket intervened and I had to go back to my shopping. (Yes I stood and watched). The way people look stupid when they fight is what makes it funny to me, their faces, their fight poses and the way they prance up and down especially those who are weaker than their opponents.

As much as I like to watch people fight, I do not like violence ( I am serious) I hate the violent kind of fight where the fighters use weapons or start to strip themselves particularly when it is between women. More so, I do not understand why someone will fight unprepared, I have seen horrible viral videos of women who get into a fight and are all exposed at the slightest fall. No underwear, no nothing, the indecent exposure is on another level. (I don’t like those types of fights).  I also do not like fights between a man and woman except the woman is winning the fight.

I have seen a lot of live fights, all sorts, people charging at themselves like bulls, people holding up their fists and jumping up and down like they are in a ring ( Mike Tyson fans) and the weaker person running while being chased by the stronger one. The one that left me speechless and still gives me goose bumps till this day was the fight between two bus conductors, I had always heard that anything was possible in Lagos but did not take it seriously until that very day; these two grown men first of all striped themselves of every clothing on their bodies. They were butt naked.  

I was caught up in traffic, so I was right in the middle of it; they started arguing at first and all of a sudden, the two started removing their clothes one after the other while still cursing themselves. I honestly believed that they had gone bonkers. Then as soon as they were totally naked, an imaginary bell rang in their heads and they went off on each other, throwing free blows around while their anacondas danced around the place; the higher they jumped, the higher the anacondas jumped that I felt the pains on their behalf. (I was looking just at their faces by the way.lol). I was too shocked at the sight that it took the honking of the car behind me to know that the traffic had started moving – No, I do not like this type of fight.

I don’t engage in fights so no matter how angry I am I never lose self control, (not like I cannot fight, I am actually a very skilled fighter.lol). Recently I was so angry to the point of fighting, I was a tinny winny close to letting my guard down and engaging in a free for all fight. What made it worse for me was that it was going to be a fight with someone I had trusted with my whole heart, I felt really betrayed. But then I thought better of it and I am happy I didn’t, how would I have explained it to my children? And what if I was beaten up? I would just leave town.

So today, while I watched the adults make a fool of themselves at the supermarket; shouting and insulting each other, I thought to myself that really it was not necessary; one person would have just stepped aside for the other person. Life is too short and precious for fights and quarrels and malice. As I left the supermarket, I passed by to say hello to a friend, I met her sad and she told me that a casual construction worker who worked in a new building on her street had a bad fall while working and died immediately. She had seen a couple of them a few minutes before it happened, she didn’t know the particular victim but he could have been among the ones that greeted her as she took a walk in the morning.

Folks, we are here today, gone tomorrow. Life is more beautiful without the hate and the anger. Let us learn to love and not fight! Shalom!