MAR

From the bottom of my heart, I gave out some recharge cards as my own little way of saying thanks to my readers for going with me on my new blog journey. It was just a trial giveaway to know how the response would be and I asked for a simple acknowledgment. Sadly only two people acknowledged even though all six cards have been used. It may be small but it was done out of love and excitement. However, I’m not deterred, I’ll do it over and over again and it will even get bigger.

So today, I met a very beautifully spirited young lady, she was just so good natured and we got talking like we had always been friends. I have been out of Lagos for a couple of days and when I realised that she was also a Lagos chic, I asked what she had come to do in the city where we were both in.

Her response shocked me because I had never seen anyone that blunt before. “I am here to carry out an IVF” “What?!” I asked, shocked at her openness and then she talked even more. Her alarm went off while we spoke and she told me that it was time for to give herself an injection and then take her drugs. From the much that she confirmed to me, to go through an IVF, the patient has to learn to inject herself at certain times; a scan is also conducted almost every day when it is close to the fertilisation day and this scan is done by passing a long tube through the vagina. (Very unpalatable)

I asked her if it was painful and she said that it was just uncomfortable, she said that you just have to get used to certain procedures and the thought of carrying your own baby keeps you going. Then she told me her story of how she waited nine years before someone told her of a certain professor whose expertise was on infertility.

She attributes the success of her first IVF to God and when I asked her if she felt that IVF was right before God, she said to me, “My friend, I am Catholic just like you but I believe that God enabled man find a cure for infertility” she explained that there is a limit to what man can do with science, when the sperm is injected to fertilise the eggs, there is no guarantee except God allows it that the sperm will latch on to an egg. She said that you can never remove the God factor in the IVF process because if He does not allow it, it will not be successful.

She is filled with hope that she’d conceive for her second child. At the end of our discussion, I wished her well and she said to me, “Please keep praying to God to bless my heart desires”. I asked her why she was so open about it and she laughed and said that she would never hide this blessing from anyone. She mentioned that her mother always told her to hide the source of her pregnancy until she asked her one question. “Mum, if the person who told me had hidden it from me, would you have had a grandchild now?  This put an end to the paranoia.

I am still praying to God to reveal to me why I must join in the movement against Medically Assisted Reproduction. (MAR) I am too sentimental to condemn the procedure. Now is MAR not better than visiting native/witch doctors and dining with the devil himself all in the search for a fruit of the womb?  Some women are even molested by fake pastors and prophets in the process.

I’ll sure be praying that my new friend Neky, finds peace and i also pray for myself for a more spiritual understanding of this topic. Right now I am in between because I am only against MAR/ART just because the church says so; I haven’t found much reasons to support it. (This makes me long for the days of Abraham when God spoke to men clearly whenever they had issues).

 Right now, I pray for more revelations and I know that God will answer my prayers.