Moment of Gaiety

Phina had read all the posts these past three days and decided to share her story.

She got married at the age of twenty to the thirty five year old doctor who attended to her while she was admitted in the hospital for a ruptured appendix.  Her marriage turned out to be one made in heaven, she couldn’t have asked for a better man.  Phina’s husband Stone always had a very busy schedule as a medical doctor and hardly spent up to seventy two hours a week with his family. He was quite dedicated to his medical practice and would respond to every distress call at any time even in the dead of the night; he had no restrictions when it came to the medical profession. For this reason, once every year, he set aside a full three weeks of holiday to be with his wife, life was heaven on earth for Phina and she enjoyed every bit of it.

After three years of marriage, and even though Stone still doted on Phina, she began to get nervous that there was no baby in the picture. Her husband always assured her that it did not matter to him that they were yet to have their own child; he knew that one day the babies would start to come. As a medical doctor, Stone ensured that all the necessary tests were done; they were both given clean bills of health and told that they could produce babies. Whenever Stone met Phina in a bad mood, he always encouraged her to stay positive and wait for the appointed time.

Stone even increased the number of times that he went on a holiday with his wife; he took her on weekend getaways at every opportunity and he never loved her less. The years went by so quickly and Phina was in her ninth year of marriage still without a child, Stone was still as loving as ever and always protected his wife from inquisitive and troublesome relatives. He once told his mother’s sister who advised him to get another wife that he was the one who had low sperm count and so couldn’t get his wife pregnant (Funny man). Of course that aunty never raised that topic again.

Phina had friends who also had delays in conceiving but sort alternative ways, she knew that Stone would support whatever decisions she took regarding childbirth, yet she opted to wait till God blessed them “naturally”.

Stone stood by his wife while they waited on God to bless them, but somewhere within, Phina still doubted Stone and feared that he could one day decide to marry another woman to give him the babies that she couldn’t give her. These fears were laid to rest the day she eavesdropped on Stone telling his younger brother that he was ready to die childless than marry or have a child by another woman. It was the month of December, and that night, Phina made love to her husband Stone with all her heart and loved every moment of that universal gaiety.

While they prepared for the Christmas holidays that same year, God smiled on Phina and she fell pregnant; by calculations, something good happened on that very beautiful night when she gave her body, soul and womb to her husband in a very special way.  Phina’s pregnancy came with every known discomfort yet it was her best Christmas ever. Every nausea was accepted with joy and she took pride in carrying a small cup around for her spit.  Phina’s pregnancy was full term when she gave birth to the most beautiful baby girl; she sure missed her pregnancy bump and almost wished the pregnancy lasted longer.(It happens. lol)

It has been five years since the birth of Isabel, their daughter; and Phina longs and prays for another baby. She says the only way to it is to wait, she believes that there is a lesson to be learnt in every trial or dark moment of one’s life. Phina empathises with those who choose alternative methods and wishes them and Neky well.

In Phina’s words, “I will share the news of the birth of my second baby with Lilea’s blog fans” (whenever it happens). Waiting patiently for Phina’s second baby for it will definitely happen.

One line of advice from Phina is for couples trying to conceive to make love like it is their first time and not like they are looking for something.