Dina is a young girl who is not
in the best state of mind at the moment, she made a shocking discovery that has
left her devastated, in addition to that, she is not sure how best to manage
this piece of information.
Dina is so proud of her family,
her parents own a very successful business together. They work very hard to
make sure that their children enjoy the best that life has to offer. Dina and
her other three siblings attended the best schools and in Dina's case, up to Masters Level with
their parent’s support.
Despite their busy schedules,
Dina’s parents still make out time for all their children, they are totally involved in their lives even
school work at University level. They all go out to eat once everyone is home at the
same time and also engage in other family leisure once time allows.
Dina’s mother Felicia is a very
strong willed woman who held her family together despite many challenges, she
is very focused and dedicated which shows in her business and in the way she
raised her children. The whole family usually goes on holidays together at
least twice a year even if it is a local destination, and the children all knew
from way back that it was all because of their mother’s prowess.
Felicia is also big on family and
often tells her children to either marry from the heart or forget it. She joined
the counselling unit in her church at a very young age and still has former members of her class who will not take any
decisions if they did not hear from her. She has a lovely family and even at their ages, they never fail to show simple affection to each other in public. All their friends know how deeply in love Dina's parents are.
Both parents are middle aged who
took on life quite early. People hardly believe it when they hear they have
four grown children in the University. Watching her parents, Dina was sure of the
kind family that she wants when she eventually gets married. Her father has all
the attributes of a good man, in addition to making his children's lives comfortable, he helps with the house chores.
Recently Dina voiced out to her father that he had not taken his family on a trip like he used to in over two
years, it had been two days since he returned from his business trip and
still had no answer to the question that Dina asked.
Her father’s attitude had changed
a bit and Dina also known as the family’s FBI got to work secretly, her discovery
shocked her to the bone marrows. The reason he had not taken them on a decent holiday
was simple, he had a mistress and so his attention was divided.
She hacked into her father’s computer
and saw a mail trail between her father and Judith his mistress. Right there
starring at Dina was the secret of her father. She wasted no time in confronting
him and he admitted immediately looking all sorry. She nearly passed
out when he said to her that it would be hard for him to end the relationship;
he had known this lady for over four years and what they shared was totally different what he shared with his wife.
Dina is not sure of what to do
now, her father offered her the five million naira she asked for earlier in the
year and subtly pleaded with her not to let their mother know. The first option
works better for Dina though she needs to teach her mother a lesson that all men are the same
(not sure about this statement though). She also knows that telling her mum
will crush her world; Dina looks at her father differently now and at her mum with
pity.
She is still not sure what to do.
Hmm, well, if that was me, the five million naira would have been used up by
now and I’d be asking for another one or else…lol. Why tell the poor woman
about her husband. Ignorance is bliss, telling her may kill her marriage of
over twenty years and cause other health issues.
Think well about it Dina and just
do the right thing. Pray for both parents as well.
please note that the names have been changed for privacy sake.
I think that life is better when somethings are left unsaid. Dina should just enjoy the money game with the dad and also understand his desires. For he not wanting his wife to know shows that he truly cares for her feelings.
ReplyDelete"Care" indeed! That is an irony dear. I don't subscribe to that. Cheating can never translate to care. Whoever keeps a clandestine affair and wants the partner to know? Their secrecy might be their fun really and can never translate to love for the unknowing victim.
DeleteEwo oh!
ReplyDeleteWhile not trying to burst any woman's bubble... at least 95% of men will cheat at least once in their marriage. Out of the 5% left, 95% are not cheating only cos of financial reasons or bc they have not found the opportunity.
ReplyDeleteIn summary 99 % of husband will cheat at least once in a marriage, if the opportunity and cash is available. The 1% who will not cheat is just an illusion to allow the wives to vouch for their husband. :).
Let d lady wait and deal with her own husbands shenanigans. Her parents should worry about theirs.
Ewooooo he has been caught in his game, he better end the relationship before his marriage falls apart. He has to choose.
ReplyDeleteConfusion activated!! The truth is that no marriage is perfect, if it appears so sweet and lovely, check it very well someone isn't being truthful. It's shocking to her because of how perfect the family looks. Sometimes some things are left unsaid and on the other hand if the mum finds out it will be a betrayal from both father and daughter and that will be more devastating. I can agree on the 5m if the father agrees to end the affair. But first she should find out what lead to the cheating, how long it's been on? How deep have they gone? With this am sure she will have a head way. The truth is that sometimes when things are so perfect it can be boring. *my thought thou*. God help her.
ReplyDeleteI so agree with you
DeleteDon't be surprised if her mum is already aware of the mistress. She's not stupid, if you live with a man and for four years he's been having an affair you will definitely know!!! Either she has turned a blind eye and put her kids first or she lives in the supposed perfect image she has built, remember a lot of women look up to her. As for the dad, I doubt if he has ended the affair or even if he did, he might be into another affair. As for Dina keep taking the money and invest wisely, better it's in ur pocket than him spending on another mistress, so DIna let ur mum have peace and leave her in her own world.. don't tell her but let ur dad know u re watching him closely. Good luck x
ReplyDeleteThanks dear for this. Trust me, this is not the man's first time. I wish people who are so bothered about telling a woman about a cheating husband will learn that:
Delete1) The woman most probably knows, or
2) She already suspects and you are just confirming her worst fears.
Most new affairs are easy to hide, not a 4yr old affair in a 20yr old marriage.Give your mum some credit girl! Wait till you get married and have problems and your mum will come out with a tirade of carefully hidden stories and experiences personal to her from yester years.
Dina should confront the mistress and quietly end that relationship before it destroys the peace in the family. If the father has an occasionally fling, the risk is less, but a steady relationship for four years, that tsunami is just gathering strength.
ReplyDeleteDina cash out. Opportunity comes but once. Men cannot change. They are created that way
ReplyDeleteLike seriously? Men are created that way?
DeleteI think Dina was wrong to begin to investigate her father, I also think is wrong to start blackmailing him for money. I also think it would amount to foolishness to contemplate telling her mother, for certain her mother being a counsellor know but have decided to keep her happiness by not raising the dust. For me she should prayer for her father to repent.
ReplyDeleteDina should never blackmail her dad . He has been a good father . Even if he had not, she must still honor him. The Bible 'a admonition to honor your father and mother ends with 'so your days can be long'. Her fathers affair is absolutely none of her business and it was impertinent for her to confront him
ReplyDeleteThis is a typical case of 'caught between the devil n the deep blue sea'.
ReplyDeleteEwooo! I feel you Dina.
Can this be non of Dina's business? Thought its her family. Look for a way to end it, find out why dad did this in the first place. Don't think of blackmail , give me money if you want. Will it be okay for the mistress to have children for her father? Ah ah. Will stylishly ask my mum's opinion on such matters. But the babe will see me o
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