Celia (real name withheld) had a fling
with Chris (real name withheld) while they were in school, she liked Chris a lot and
had hoped for a long relationship but Chris was a player; he broke her heart
and didn’t even realise it. He only came to her when he needed an easy chic,
and didn’t hide it from her that he had other girls in his life.
It was very painful, but Celia
had to move on; when Chris realised that she was focused and could make him a better person, he begged her to be in his life again but she wouldn’t hear
any of it. It sounded like trash to her because she had found God and had
committed to staying celibate until her wedding day. Chris looked very cheap
and dirty to her and she was ashamed that she had had any bodily contact with him.
On the other hand, to Chris, Celia
was like a rare gem and all his other girls were very indecent and he didn’t find
them attractive anymore, they wore revealing colthes that made them look cheap and they hardly attended lectures. He was tired of the kind of life
he lived with them and wanted Celia back desperately, he even started to go to
her church just to win her back again.
Celia was genuinely happy that
Chris acted more mature and most of all, was seeking God but she knew deep down
in her heart that accepting Chris again would be like going back to eat her
vomit. (Yuck)
Three years after Celia left the
campus, she met Bjay (real name withheld); they courted for a few months and then got
married, Chris graduated two years before Celia and they had not heard from
each other ever since. On Bjay’s birthday, while Celia was serving their guests,
she saw Chris coming into her home with Bjay’s brother, and she nearly passed
out.
Bjay excitedly introduced Celia
to Chris as his second cousin who hardly attended family functions, she
immediately told Bjay that she knew Chris from school, Chris had a big grin on
his face and Celia immediately knew that she was in a lot of trouble.
In one of their discussions, Bjay
had told Celia that he could live with anything from her past expect
sleeping with his brother or friend. Recently Chris and Celia had a phone
conversation, where Chris promised never to tell his cousin what happened
between them but Celia does not trust him. Bjay had also mentioned to Celia
that Chris’s countenance looked like they had an affair or that Chris liked her
when they were in school. Of course Celia denied ever having any relationship
with Chris.
So far, Bjay has asked Celia two
more times if she was involved with Chris back in school, Celia does not know
why he keeps asking but has decided to deny each time the question comes up. She
says that this sort of lie is one that she will take to her grave because she
believes that if Bjay knows the truth, it may destroy their marriage.
Celia is still dedicated to
living a good Christian life but says that God will understand why she must
stick to this lie.
Will God truly understand?
Hiiiiiaaaaan! please what is the big deal??? Someone she dated before she met her husband. If this flimsy gist can break her marriage then the marriage was as flimsy as the story. Please out with the story and move on and don't make herself a pawn in the enemy's game. Constant denial makes it look more sinister than it is.Why drag God into this? Doesn't her Bjay have a past? Women always selling themselves short! Overrated issues!
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DeleteNa BC of this kain story make me I pray one kain prayer wey I happy say God answer me... Na wa oh
ReplyDeleteBig deal! Chris was your past for crying out loud and it ends there cos no guy is a saint either! All the 'lies' thing are signs of immaturity for one who says she knows and fears God.
DeleteA friend of mine, made an argument recently that so called born again Christian's are the biggest hypocrites. That argument is holding water in this story.
ReplyDeleteDis geh no seriouz, the only reason I see here is if she told bjay that she was chaste thru out Uni days, otherwise this lie no get Color at all. Lying is like a high maintenance chic, you have to keep up the good work otherwise....
ReplyDeleteEverybody has a past(Christians especially, that's where the testimony is, maybe she no even know sef)
It's a common thing...Selective lying. Lying is a burden, for me the one wey dem no ask me I go spill, unless ofcourse someone caught me whistling..Even shaggy go respect my denial. "Mba nunu, how can? Is this what a whistle looks like? I tink say na chingum.Nna, I don't even know how to blow anytin"
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ReplyDeleteB4 I married my wife, she heard bout my flings and nearly passed out. Truth bout her knowing den is dt now no ex-chic can com and scare me bcos she knows a bit of my rugged past enof 2 kno wat I can do or cannot do.
ReplyDeleteGuys abeg, let ur chic pass out b4 marriage 2 avoid her packing out.....
Each time you tell you put yourself in bondage cos you have to keep trlling repeated lies to oil the first and the question is what for really? Especially in this situation where it had to do with her past, out with it already and move on. Now blackmail can thrive easily. Anytime Chris coughs she shivers mscheeeew maka why? The girl bu Onuku abeg
ReplyDeleteOnye Mara Ife ga ese Okwu , ya emekwa Na ya ooo.... Pls don't accept.
ReplyDeleteWhy put herself in a tight n sticky situation? Everybody has a past, unless he was the one that disvirgined you. Even the Bjay himself. So why even attempt to deny anything.
ReplyDeleteChris happened before he turned up, so he should get over himself n get with the program.
No Long thing.
Tell him the truth.
ReplyDeleteI will say she is making a big mistake by hiding her past from her husband. He had better come out clean cos if he finds out from his cousin, it would be catastrophic! After all, d husband must also have his own past.
ReplyDeleteI will say she is making a big mistake by hiding her past from her husband. He had better come out clean cos if he finds out from his cousin, it would be catastrophic! After all, d husband must also have his own past.
ReplyDeleteTell the truth...especially as you suspect he might know.
ReplyDeleteBabe callvyoir husband and tell him, you will have to pay dearly for even telling the first lie. Chris can decide to blackmailbyou o. Ehn, I have said my own
ReplyDeleteI don't think this is worth covering up. Chris is history. She couldn't possibly have known that years after, she would end up marrying his cousin. It'll only get messier the longer she lies about it.
ReplyDeleteI think Bjay acting Childishly here what's the big deal if Celia hard affair with Chris or not. For me that was in the past before his arrival. And so doesn't count. Celia should tell him the truth and let him grieve once and for all is not enough for him to call off the marriage. Haba! What if his cousin marries a girl himself Bjay dated nko? So let be mature and move on. It has no meter that he will be asking for previous reading
ReplyDeleteTell the truth and be free.
ReplyDeleteIf Celia found God and is born again like the story hinted. I suppose Bjay too is boragain or a good Christian for them to flow together. Old things are passed away, all things have become new. But my question which they story didn't highlight: at what point did Bjay tell her he wouldn't accept her past of sleeping with his brother or cousin? Before marriage or after marriage when Celia and Chris met at the party and he perceived a deep knowing between them? Some couples before marriage discussed their past and place all cards on the table on whom each dated to move on. If that happened,did Celia mention Chris name? If not,why is it an issue now? She didn't know Chris was his cousin back in school days and even when she was dating Bjay and marrying him, as to confess. Bjay even said Chris doesn't attend family functions obviously he was absent at their wedding day. So? No big deal. So it's just a mistake and coincidence that Chris turns out to be bjay cousin. What I find disturbing is why is she still receiving Chris teleconvesation? She should avoid and cut him off forever. And face the truth for her to be free. If Bjay decides to call quit the marriage over such,then he never really loved her.its a circumstantial and fairweather husband. Will still definitely leave her tomorrow over other flimsy and minor issues. He also has a past that could be terrible and worse than hers. She should come clean. Every marriage shall be tested in love. Or better put the love and foundation of every marriage shall be tested in the course of time. Some overcome and become stronger. Others fall by the way side, and others live in unforgiveness and bicker all through . Which is a sign of immaturity. But if she decides to maintain her stand that she never did anything intimate with Chris but only as a friend,God would understand because old things have passed away. Those sins were forgiven and forgotten. Don't remind God what he has forgotten. The blood of Jesus is powerful. And ignore Chris. He can't blackmail her because it is not easy too for him to look his cousin in the face and spew rubbish of hitting his wife in school. Not a close family member. He must be sinister to think of doing that. Then she can say he has disturbed and chased her all her life ,even joining her to church and give examples. Your word against his.
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