Hello good people! Happy June 12th anniversary!
I am not about to write of the events of June 12th, nope! Maybe some other time. Someone sent me a message about her sister’s relationship. Her older sister is in a relationship and recently the guy asked for her hand in marriage. You would think that this should be good news but it has brought so much division in their home.
This family is a below average family, they live in the slums of a particular state (I promised to take the anonymity to another level, no names at all); their father is a transporter and their mother, a petty trader.
One thing they did for their children was to make sure that they got an education, judging by the pictures I saw, these girls, three of them and their only brother have all the tendencies of being extremely beautiful; the hour glass shape, high cheek bones, long necks and all, their brother stands quite tall at above 6 feet; with just a little bit of fortune and they would be real head turners/spinners and all that.
All siblings are in the higher institution, just one year age difference from the next among them and the boy is the last. Now the oldest of them all has a suitor who she has known for over one year, she only made him known to her family this year and their lives have not been the same ever since.
He tried to move them to a better dwelling but their mother refused vehemently; she felt so insulted by it that she has vowed to disown her daughter if she does not stop seeing this man. She feels that her husband has failed in his duties as a man by getting carried away by a fellow man’s riches.
It is not as if their mother is twins with penury, but the man in question has a lot of baggage and of course, the number one baggage is that he is very married with three children who are all below the age of thirteen. His wife lives with him, but she has partial mental issues which started after the birth of their last child. It is a seasonal thing and she has her moments of sanity, however, they were told at the last doctor’s appointment that the sickness would only get worse.
He claims to still love his wife but loves this new girl in his life, they met in school where she is a part time undergraduate and he, a PhD scholar in the same faculty. He gave her a ride home after lectures one late evening and the rest is history. They had seen each other secretly for over a year and the chic claims that their relationship had been pure. (I believe her)
He basically changed her life and the lives of her siblings, she just lied to her parents that she was given more responsibilities where she works as a front desk and so her salary was increased; she had to have an explanation for her sudden ability to help in paying her other siblings’ school fees, house rent and the purchase of food stuff in bulk. They even had eggs with their bread for breakfast consistently for one week at some point.
Their home is now divided, their mother and the only boy of the family insist that their sister must end the relationship while the other two girls and their father think that their mother and brother are over reacting; the family is divided at the moment. The man has gone severally to plead with the mother to give her blessings and he also promised to do everything possible to keep her daughter safe, comfortable and happy.
Her mother’s fears are not farfetched; she is afraid of the kind of life her daughter would live, would she live in the same house with an insane woman or live in a separate house without her husband? Would she be able to take care of another woman’s three children? And wouldn’t she have her own children? Her mother also thinks that this forty something year old man wants a nanny for his mentally unstable wife and her biggest fear is that the woman may hack her daughter to death in a moment of madness.
The lady in question says that she wants to marry this man not because he is quite wealthy and has been generous to her but because she loves him deeply. Her mind is made up, with or without her mother’s consent; she would go ahead with the marriage.
At the moment, she has gotten a new apartment and plans to relocate to this new place with the members of her family who are willing to come with her, it only breaks her heart that her brother who she totally adores is not on her side.
I have asked the one who contacted me to ask her sister to listen to their mother and should buy more time with the guy to see how things play out by the end of the year. Their mother and brother may be the only ones who are still able to reason amidst all the hardship and their mother’s warnings should not be made light of. The arrangement is quite awkward I must!
I am not about to write of the events of June 12th, nope! Maybe some other time. Someone sent me a message about her sister’s relationship. Her older sister is in a relationship and recently the guy asked for her hand in marriage. You would think that this should be good news but it has brought so much division in their home.
This family is a below average family, they live in the slums of a particular state (I promised to take the anonymity to another level, no names at all); their father is a transporter and their mother, a petty trader.
One thing they did for their children was to make sure that they got an education, judging by the pictures I saw, these girls, three of them and their only brother have all the tendencies of being extremely beautiful; the hour glass shape, high cheek bones, long necks and all, their brother stands quite tall at above 6 feet; with just a little bit of fortune and they would be real head turners/spinners and all that.
All siblings are in the higher institution, just one year age difference from the next among them and the boy is the last. Now the oldest of them all has a suitor who she has known for over one year, she only made him known to her family this year and their lives have not been the same ever since.
He tried to move them to a better dwelling but their mother refused vehemently; she felt so insulted by it that she has vowed to disown her daughter if she does not stop seeing this man. She feels that her husband has failed in his duties as a man by getting carried away by a fellow man’s riches.
It is not as if their mother is twins with penury, but the man in question has a lot of baggage and of course, the number one baggage is that he is very married with three children who are all below the age of thirteen. His wife lives with him, but she has partial mental issues which started after the birth of their last child. It is a seasonal thing and she has her moments of sanity, however, they were told at the last doctor’s appointment that the sickness would only get worse.
He claims to still love his wife but loves this new girl in his life, they met in school where she is a part time undergraduate and he, a PhD scholar in the same faculty. He gave her a ride home after lectures one late evening and the rest is history. They had seen each other secretly for over a year and the chic claims that their relationship had been pure. (I believe her)
He basically changed her life and the lives of her siblings, she just lied to her parents that she was given more responsibilities where she works as a front desk and so her salary was increased; she had to have an explanation for her sudden ability to help in paying her other siblings’ school fees, house rent and the purchase of food stuff in bulk. They even had eggs with their bread for breakfast consistently for one week at some point.
Their home is now divided, their mother and the only boy of the family insist that their sister must end the relationship while the other two girls and their father think that their mother and brother are over reacting; the family is divided at the moment. The man has gone severally to plead with the mother to give her blessings and he also promised to do everything possible to keep her daughter safe, comfortable and happy.
Her mother’s fears are not farfetched; she is afraid of the kind of life her daughter would live, would she live in the same house with an insane woman or live in a separate house without her husband? Would she be able to take care of another woman’s three children? And wouldn’t she have her own children? Her mother also thinks that this forty something year old man wants a nanny for his mentally unstable wife and her biggest fear is that the woman may hack her daughter to death in a moment of madness.
The lady in question says that she wants to marry this man not because he is quite wealthy and has been generous to her but because she loves him deeply. Her mind is made up, with or without her mother’s consent; she would go ahead with the marriage.
At the moment, she has gotten a new apartment and plans to relocate to this new place with the members of her family who are willing to come with her, it only breaks her heart that her brother who she totally adores is not on her side.
I have asked the one who contacted me to ask her sister to listen to their mother and should buy more time with the guy to see how things play out by the end of the year. Their mother and brother may be the only ones who are still able to reason amidst all the hardship and their mother’s warnings should not be made light of. The arrangement is quite awkward I must!
The lady is absolutely carried away by the man's riches. For me she should better heed her mother and brother advice to forget this man and look for another. Beside at this time that the man's wife have mental challenge is the time I think the man should show her wife all the love he can and be with her. I don't understand why he is thinking of another wife just because she is challenged. If it where the man who is challengers would it be right for the woman to abandon her to seek pleasure elsewhere? Would the society not condemn such a wife as wicked and heartless. Why would the man dish a coin he surely would not accept. It thought is for better for worse? Why abandon the wife for another? Apart from providing for his wife, more Than anything she need his presence and emotional support from her husband and the children will only be strong if their father is seen to care and love their mother at this critical time.
ReplyDeleteThe girl needs to put on her thinking cap. Second wife is not an option. She is on her own, what God has joined together let no man put asunder.Ndi oso chiegbu. The girl should shine her eyes. All that glitters is not gold.
ReplyDeleteDear Amaka,
ReplyDeleteSincerely. I understand how this girl would be feeling given the selflessness and generosity of this wealthy man who has helped her and her family very much.
This love with all the blessings that comes alongside will continue if the status quo is maintained. God blesses the Rich for helping the poor, that is why HE gave them riches in the first place.
But any attempt to twist the nature of things for selfish interest will result in untold and self inflicted suffering.
The girl, out of her greed and imprudence to usurp another woman, taking her husband will live to tell a bitter story afterwards.
The man for not loving the woman of his life, mother of his children more so now she is sick and helpless does not understand the meaning of love. His life will be bereft of love and that will be a living hell.
These are strong prophesies, but no man mocks God.
I will take the position of the girl's mother to remain in abject poverty than heap these curses on the family.
Let the rich man, keep taking care of the family without any selfish interest, definitely he and his family will be richly rewarded.
Let the young lady stop dancing Skelekwu, the devil is playing for her.
My 2cents contribution.
Thanks.
Abeg Jare, let a grown adult make her decisions & live with whatever consequences that comes with it if any. Mama step aside
ReplyDeleteThe long whip used on the first wife will surely be hanging for the first and subsequent ones.
ReplyDeleteDon't be carried away! It's bad enough that you're cruising a married man (A home breaker), much more considering to co-join or even take over.
The man is obviously inconsistent and inconsiderate. I don't see any love lost here. Permit me to say that both are living in a fool's paradise and are just exploiting each other. I term it the devil's escapade.
The long whip used on the first wife will surely be hanging for the first and subsequent ones.
ReplyDeleteDon't be carried away! It's bad enough that you're cruising a married man (A home breaker), much more considering to co-join or even take over.
The man is obviously inconsistent and inconsiderate. I don't see any love lost here. Permit me to say that both are living in a fool's paradise and are just exploiting each other. I term it the devil's escapade.