"Kingsterella"

There is a limit to humility; I believe in this statement with all my heart for it is important to know where to draw the line. I believe in happy endings and fairy tales, romantic stories that touch the heart where an elite falls in love with a poor local girl, marries her and they live happily ever after. Sometimes, this sort of relationships work but in most cases they are just so complicated. I love the Cinderella kind of story where the prince falls in love and marries poor Cinderella to the displeasure of her wicked step mother and step sisters but really Cinderella was a noble in her own right before fate dealt her a bad blow.

Yes I know that Cinderella is fairy tale but it speaks to the sort of relationship in this story. In my view, one should marry someone of the same class and social standing and if one must step down, not a problem but please not too low.

If you feel the need to be charitable, by all means,  be charitable but try as much as possible to separate romance from it and do not mistake pity for love. From experience, I have seen a lot of people who had humble beginnings are not able to handle success when it comes. Sometimes they change in attitude and behaviour, some may get pompous and attribute the success to all their years of suffering and hardwork, only a few fit in well with success. Some may evenbecome hoarders and very selfish, not wanting to give out anything at all and some are just out rightly wicked, and all they want is to see the downfall of their benefactors.

This last behaviour best describes the situation of Jenny (not real name); Jenny met and fell in love with an errand boy in her office whose mother also hawked things on the same street where Jenny's office was located.

Jenny started off by helping this family when she realised how hardworking the young chap and his mother were. She first of all put him in school and it was while she mentored him and provided for his family that they both experienced the first sparks of chemistry between them. They were age mates but because of Jenny’s exposure and academic achievements and in addition to the very wealthy family that she was from, this errand boy, Kingston(not real name) looked a lot smaller and younger than Jenny.

Fast forward to three years, they both had become a very popular odd couple but Jenny was not bothered, all that mattered to her was that she was in love and she wanted the whole world to see that. This was her own fairy tale, she was princess charming and Kingston was her "Kingsterella"

Kingston’s mother was over joyed when Kingston informed her of his intentions to marry Jenny. She was quite happy but who wouldn’t be? Jenny had become a "saviour" to her family for she made sure that they lacked nothing including proper medical care.

Jenny was just representing her company on a project that required her to stay in Nigeria for a couple of years, she actually lived in the Netherlands and was already a very established young lady by the time she relocated briefly to Nigeria, she had a good job and was doing very well in the IT sector back in the Netherlands.

Amidst all the negativity from her family and friends,  Jenny accepted to marry Kingston, afterwards,  she went back to the Netherlands, Kingston joined her and within a short time, she had filed and gotten him a permanent stay in their country of residence.

Kingston was everything but nice,  in fact he was horrid and made Jenny feel like he did her a favor by getting married to her. His transition to a monster was not gradual, he changed in one day,  just one morning and he decided it was time to show his true colours.

He wanted out of the marriage that had produced four adorable children.  There was absolutely no reason for a breakup but he left anyway. Jenny had put up with all his bad behaviour, if anyone should have walked out of the marriage,  it should have been Jenny, but she stayed on and was ready to make sacrifices for her marriage to work.

Now he is asking  his ex wife to pay him some money as settlement; (settlement for what? This lady acquired all her property before she met you, thief!).

Is this how you pay a lady who picked you up from the gutters, sent you to school and made sure that you never lacked ? Kingston had always been so badly behaved from the inception of their marriage, he cheated on Jenny severally, abused her verbally and even beat her sometimes. (Yet Jenny forgave him and kept on being a dutiful wife).

He made Jenny sell a property she acquired long before she met him at a very ridiculous amount just to settle him.  She had made him a joint owner of the property. ( what is wrong with women?)
Recently, another court ruled in favour of evil Kingston and asked Jenny to pay him more money since she had a good job and earned more than him.

This was a man who was poverty stricken in Nigeria and never dreamt of seeing an aircraft in his life. Before he moved out of their matrimonial home, he had invited his mother the hawker to the Netherlands where they lived without informing his wife. He sponsored her trip yet he never contributed a dime to the upkeep of his home and children.

His mother made Jenny’s life a living hell, she made the most difficult demands and was quick to criticize everything that Jenny did. She is fully in support of her son and has encouraged him to find a much younger lady to marry. (wickedness in high places)

He found out that in a divorce in their country of residence the weaker party was favoured more and the more successful party pays the amount as stipulated by the courts. So Kingston who is obviously the weaker party has been fighting Jenny over everything that she owns and even the ones that she acquired before she  mistakenly got married to him.

Jenny cannot believe that her ex husband and his mother can treat her as badly as they had done in the past few months of their separation. Maybe she should have left Kingston's mother to die when she was quite ill and the hospital wouldn't treat her because she had no money to deposit and maybe she would have also let the landlord throw her out when they couldn't pay their house rent.

With every good deed she had done for this family, it was difficult to understand why Kingston’s mother who should know better had joined her son to make Jenny's life miserable.

Kingston’s demands are a lot and the court seems to have granted almost all of them. Jenny is on the verge of selling her only remaining house just to be able meet up with the timelines of the court.

In all of these, I do not blame Kingston, a bad pig will always be a bad pig. Jenny shouldn't have stooped so low to deal with a low life like Kingston. Why did she not stick to her own kind?