A few people asked me to revisit the issue of flirting and one reader pointed out that, if 90% of women flirt then a lot more percentage of the men flirt, after all, who do the women flirt with?
There is no doubt whatsoever that the men flirt more than the women and why theirs is annoying is that a man will flirt with more than one woman at the same time and in the same place.
Men, (SMH) they are so full of it, a guy approaches you and tells you how brilliantly you spoke at a meeting or how bright your idea was, you start to blush and feel special (some men are certified in this) the next minute, you see the same man talking to another woman, trust me, if you get closer, you would find out that the man is saying to the new woman exactly the same things that he said to you earlier. Give him some time and he will come right back to you to continue from where he stopped.
Men are experts at saying sweet nothings, they say things that make a woman feel like she is the only woman on planet earth, then in her quiet moment, when the scales have fallen off her eyes, the woman tries to figure out what the man said that made her let her guard down and behold, he said nothing really! That is why it is called sweet nothings! Teeheehee
It is usually exciting to flirt like I mentioned in my earlier post and so difficult to stop, (please I am innocent of this, lol) from what I gathered from speaking to other women, when they find themselves in this situation, they usually want to stop but do not know how to. My advice to them is this, if you cannot stop because of God who lovingly and patiently waits for us to stop sinning, then stop for the fear of being caught. Considering that most flirtings occur on social media in recent times, just imagine how the taglines would read, “A Married Woman’s Dirty Secrets Exposed” or “How an Undergraduate tried to ruin a Married Man’s home”. Also imagine being caught by your spouse, you will just find yourself in such an awkward position, the type that my people refer to as “Ora e kene m unu” meaning “My people I greet you”; when you face a panel of judges made up of your kinsmen to answer to accusations leveled against you, you start by greeting in the words mentioned above. Trust me nobody wants to be in that position and by the way, only the women are made to face this humiliation.
I remember a young lady who used to be my cousin, (yes I disowned her. Lol) when she was caught by her husband in a compromising position with another man, of all the lies in the world to tell, she chose to say that she wanted to make her husband jealous and so decided to be that intimate with the guy. How can one tell such a lie? Your husband received an anonymous call and you had no idea that he was still in town yet you say that you wanted him to be jealous, C’mon! Of course her marriage ended.
Note to the women that flirt; please know when the handshake has extended to the elbow and take heed not to fall for the sweet nothings, it is no longer the “I love you pass my mama” kind of vibes, now they tell you that you are smart and resourceful and that there is something special about you. Look at the man saying this to you very well and you will see that he is lying through his teeth! Before the day ends, he would have said those same things to at least three other women; men coordinate their flirting like they are coordinating an important meeting. In any case, the woman bears the brunt of disgrace when discovered (sad).
Some would say that it is better to flirt than to do the real thing, after all it is a lesser sin, hmm, please don’t be deceived, even the bible says that if you look at someone lustfully that you have committed the full offence. (This is me minding my language.lol)
Some people would say that if flirting is wrong already why not go the whole nine yards, well, if you meet your maker in that state please be prepared to defend your actions.
In two nutshells, flirting may be all that but there could be repercussions and yes the men are worse flirts than the women.
There is no doubt whatsoever that the men flirt more than the women and why theirs is annoying is that a man will flirt with more than one woman at the same time and in the same place.
Men, (SMH) they are so full of it, a guy approaches you and tells you how brilliantly you spoke at a meeting or how bright your idea was, you start to blush and feel special (some men are certified in this) the next minute, you see the same man talking to another woman, trust me, if you get closer, you would find out that the man is saying to the new woman exactly the same things that he said to you earlier. Give him some time and he will come right back to you to continue from where he stopped.
Men are experts at saying sweet nothings, they say things that make a woman feel like she is the only woman on planet earth, then in her quiet moment, when the scales have fallen off her eyes, the woman tries to figure out what the man said that made her let her guard down and behold, he said nothing really! That is why it is called sweet nothings! Teeheehee
It is usually exciting to flirt like I mentioned in my earlier post and so difficult to stop, (please I am innocent of this, lol) from what I gathered from speaking to other women, when they find themselves in this situation, they usually want to stop but do not know how to. My advice to them is this, if you cannot stop because of God who lovingly and patiently waits for us to stop sinning, then stop for the fear of being caught. Considering that most flirtings occur on social media in recent times, just imagine how the taglines would read, “A Married Woman’s Dirty Secrets Exposed” or “How an Undergraduate tried to ruin a Married Man’s home”. Also imagine being caught by your spouse, you will just find yourself in such an awkward position, the type that my people refer to as “Ora e kene m unu” meaning “My people I greet you”; when you face a panel of judges made up of your kinsmen to answer to accusations leveled against you, you start by greeting in the words mentioned above. Trust me nobody wants to be in that position and by the way, only the women are made to face this humiliation.
I remember a young lady who used to be my cousin, (yes I disowned her. Lol) when she was caught by her husband in a compromising position with another man, of all the lies in the world to tell, she chose to say that she wanted to make her husband jealous and so decided to be that intimate with the guy. How can one tell such a lie? Your husband received an anonymous call and you had no idea that he was still in town yet you say that you wanted him to be jealous, C’mon! Of course her marriage ended.
Note to the women that flirt; please know when the handshake has extended to the elbow and take heed not to fall for the sweet nothings, it is no longer the “I love you pass my mama” kind of vibes, now they tell you that you are smart and resourceful and that there is something special about you. Look at the man saying this to you very well and you will see that he is lying through his teeth! Before the day ends, he would have said those same things to at least three other women; men coordinate their flirting like they are coordinating an important meeting. In any case, the woman bears the brunt of disgrace when discovered (sad).
Some would say that it is better to flirt than to do the real thing, after all it is a lesser sin, hmm, please don’t be deceived, even the bible says that if you look at someone lustfully that you have committed the full offence. (This is me minding my language.lol)
Some people would say that if flirting is wrong already why not go the whole nine yards, well, if you meet your maker in that state please be prepared to defend your actions.
In two nutshells, flirting may be all that but there could be repercussions and yes the men are worse flirts than the women.
I really miss flirting.
ReplyDeleteAs a single guy, I flirted wt every beauty in skirt I came across.... It was fun.
Truth is I try very hard 2 keep off it now as a married man bcos of D repercussions of d extent it could lead 2.
Wat I hav com up wt is as brilliant as my single days.
Wen out wt my wife, I flirt so mch wt her, dou it makes her uncomfortable somtims, it prepares us 4 a memorable night wen we get bak home.
Bottom line; married men/women can still flirt as mch as dey wnt as long as it's wt dia respective spouses.
Dear Amaka,
ReplyDeleteHow does one explain the attraction of sin.
The attraction is accounted by the fact that the evil of sin do not appear alone; it comes clothed with good.
The admixture of good and evil aspects of sin explains why sin attracts; the good aspect remains attractive because it is good.
Taking flirting as case in point, the aspect of appreciating the glory of the other is good and attractive. But the truth is that there is no glory of the other except God; the source of all glories. Appreciation that fails to take cognizance of the source ceases to be good.
Flirting tends to put man in center stage of being responsible and deserving good attributes he owes.
This a grand deception because Man is a participating being; on his own - he is nothing, has nothing and knows nothing.