Dear Lilea's blog,
I was nineteen years old when I discovered that I had taken in for my boyfriend; he was just two years older than me but his reaction shocked me.
He was so happy and he begged me to keep the pregnancy. I was tempted to but when I got home that weekend and just one look at me, my mother started screaming. She said that I looked pregnant and that if truly I was, that she'd kill both the baby and I.
She was meant to take me to the laboratory that period but somehow it didn't happen and I had to go back to school the following Monday. I'm sure it was because I had put up an act and did a lot of house chores; I also made sure that they never caught me sleeping during the day.
As soon as I got back to school, I told my boyfriend Ujah (not real name) that I needed to get rid of it. Reluctantly, he took me to the hospital and paid for the procedure. Afterwards, he did not speak to me for a while.
When we eventually got back together, our make up "do" resulted in another pregnancy, this time I did not tell Ujah, I went by myself and got rid of the pregnancy.
After this, I cried for weeks, I became depressed, I couldn't stop hearing the cry of a baby in my head.
Ujah and I got married shortly after I left the University and we have three beautiful children. You would think that this was problem solved, of course not. Now I imagine how beautiful my first two children would have been. I'm still haunted by the two abortions. It's been over ten years yet I am still healing; those are my biggest regrets in life.
Based on my own experience dear Lilea's blog, Kathy should keep the pregnancy, the guilt is usually heavy and guess what? You will never be able to undo it .
Kathy, please have that baby, and avoid that very long guilty trip. It may appear tough now but you will reap the fruits later.
(please note that any name mentioned in this story is fictitous for privacy sake)
I was nineteen years old when I discovered that I had taken in for my boyfriend; he was just two years older than me but his reaction shocked me.
He was so happy and he begged me to keep the pregnancy. I was tempted to but when I got home that weekend and just one look at me, my mother started screaming. She said that I looked pregnant and that if truly I was, that she'd kill both the baby and I.
She was meant to take me to the laboratory that period but somehow it didn't happen and I had to go back to school the following Monday. I'm sure it was because I had put up an act and did a lot of house chores; I also made sure that they never caught me sleeping during the day.
As soon as I got back to school, I told my boyfriend Ujah (not real name) that I needed to get rid of it. Reluctantly, he took me to the hospital and paid for the procedure. Afterwards, he did not speak to me for a while.
When we eventually got back together, our make up "do" resulted in another pregnancy, this time I did not tell Ujah, I went by myself and got rid of the pregnancy.
After this, I cried for weeks, I became depressed, I couldn't stop hearing the cry of a baby in my head.
Ujah and I got married shortly after I left the University and we have three beautiful children. You would think that this was problem solved, of course not. Now I imagine how beautiful my first two children would have been. I'm still haunted by the two abortions. It's been over ten years yet I am still healing; those are my biggest regrets in life.
Based on my own experience dear Lilea's blog, Kathy should keep the pregnancy, the guilt is usually heavy and guess what? You will never be able to undo it .
Kathy, please have that baby, and avoid that very long guilty trip. It may appear tough now but you will reap the fruits later.
(please note that any name mentioned in this story is fictitous for privacy sake)
Nice and good advice to Kathryn as ell
ReplyDeleteThe most honest advise yet.!
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Very sound advice....people forget the trauma that comes with aborting a child, some never recover from it
ReplyDeleteVery good advise dearie.. God bless u for this courage. To all ladies out there abortion does not pay at all no matter what.God help us all to do the right thing always..
ReplyDeleteAbortion, hmmmmm. Not a good thing forks.
ReplyDeleteExperience they say is a better teacher Kathy you have all the fact from the advise please act wisely. Remember only three things land us in trouble 1. Power, 2. Possession, 3. Pleasure. The enemy use these three to tempt us and it works.
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