My name is Sylvia. I'm a Mature Single Woman (MSW) and I've been waiting for ever for a man to ask to put a ring on it.
I have suffered uncountable heart breaks. (Men are wicked)
One even went as far as taking the traditional wine to indicate his interest in getting married to me.
That night I gave in to him and it was the best night of my life. I had been celibate for exactly nine months before this evil man pierced through my new found innocence.
He did not even pretend; that week he left the country0 and never took my calls again till moment of speaking.
I will not pretend, I wish him evil, everything evil, I was left to explain to my parents that there was not going to be any wedding.
My prayers have finally been answered but there is a little snag; Fred is a divorcee with three children (I don't have any problem with the children) the problem is his marital status.
I am a Christian and my Bible makes me believe that any one who marries a divorcee commits adultery.
I love this man and it was his wife who left him. I'm torn between following my heart and adhering to my Christian teaching. My parents are liberal and so do not mind.
What do I do? I want to get married so badly yet I'm about to lose a very good man.
Tough one! If getting married to him will make you live in guilt all your life then it wouldn't be worth it. We can never know it all. I am Christian but I would jump at the opportunity if I weigh all the circumstances and find my man to be a truly good man.
Sometimes God's ways are not our ways so seek Him earnestly at this time and He will surely direct you. All the best!
(please note that the names are fictitious for privacy sake)
I have suffered uncountable heart breaks. (Men are wicked)
One even went as far as taking the traditional wine to indicate his interest in getting married to me.
That night I gave in to him and it was the best night of my life. I had been celibate for exactly nine months before this evil man pierced through my new found innocence.
He did not even pretend; that week he left the country0 and never took my calls again till moment of speaking.
I will not pretend, I wish him evil, everything evil, I was left to explain to my parents that there was not going to be any wedding.
My prayers have finally been answered but there is a little snag; Fred is a divorcee with three children (I don't have any problem with the children) the problem is his marital status.
I am a Christian and my Bible makes me believe that any one who marries a divorcee commits adultery.
I love this man and it was his wife who left him. I'm torn between following my heart and adhering to my Christian teaching. My parents are liberal and so do not mind.
What do I do? I want to get married so badly yet I'm about to lose a very good man.
Tough one! If getting married to him will make you live in guilt all your life then it wouldn't be worth it. We can never know it all. I am Christian but I would jump at the opportunity if I weigh all the circumstances and find my man to be a truly good man.
Sometimes God's ways are not our ways so seek Him earnestly at this time and He will surely direct you. All the best!
(please note that the names are fictitious for privacy sake)
Marriage to a divorcee is no marriage. I believe what my bible says. No matter how painful it is or sounds, it is the truth
ReplyDeleteAs a Catholic Christian, marriage is that which was validly conducted in a catholic with a catholic priest accepting their consent before witness. This is so because it cannot be dissolved. Other types of "marriages" recognize and accept "divorce". I will advise you against marrying him if he is still validly married in the Catholic Church. Aside from this, other beliefs hold that a man or woman can be divorced and still remarry.
ReplyDeleteYes, it's true that Bible made it clear on divorce but this should not be misunderstood. Find out what result to his new marital status of being a divorcee. If you're a Catholic, discuss with your priest,I believe there must be a solution.
ReplyDeleteAs catholics, the whole divorce topic can be very tricky n sticky! I say follow your heart n talk to a priest
ReplyDeletehmmmm this is a very serious issue but God is still on the throne. cast all yur burdens to him & he will surely make a way. Best wishes
ReplyDeleteReligion is man made & overated. "The opium of the people". Simply follow your heart.
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