Its a nannies alert!! Helen and Gasper (not real names) were married for twelve years before their marriage hit the rocks.
It was a good marriage at first, both parties loved each other so much. They were young and the future looked bright.
The problem however began when Helen got her dream job. She had prayed for this and here it was; she wouldn't trade it for anything.
Seeing that her job was too demanding and made her come home late everyday, she employed a young naive girl as a nanny. She taught her to cook and keep the home clean.
Liza (not real name) was like an angel, she learnt very quickly and took charge. She was everything in the home. She cooked, cleaned, did the laundry, ironed, arranged the clothes, and also helped the children with their school work. She did all without giving any negative attitude.
Gasper complained a million times to Helen and to her parents that he was not happy that his wife relinquished her duties to a mere househelp but all his words fell on deaf ears.
Helen got home from work one fateful night only to meet an empty house. Everything was gone,the furniture, electronics and all.
Gasper left her note, that read "Baby, do not bother trying to find us, hope you get to the peak of your career, Liza will take perfect care of the girls and I like she's always done. All the best Gasper"
Helen recenyly left her job and is struggling at the moment. Gasper married Liza in a traditional marriage
Ps: why do I not feel any iota of sympathy for this woman? Just lick your wounds and move on. You may also ty to make amends if possible, make efforts to find where they are and see if you can still be in their lives.
It was a good marriage at first, both parties loved each other so much. They were young and the future looked bright.
The problem however began when Helen got her dream job. She had prayed for this and here it was; she wouldn't trade it for anything.
Seeing that her job was too demanding and made her come home late everyday, she employed a young naive girl as a nanny. She taught her to cook and keep the home clean.
Liza (not real name) was like an angel, she learnt very quickly and took charge. She was everything in the home. She cooked, cleaned, did the laundry, ironed, arranged the clothes, and also helped the children with their school work. She did all without giving any negative attitude.
Gasper complained a million times to Helen and to her parents that he was not happy that his wife relinquished her duties to a mere househelp but all his words fell on deaf ears.
Helen got home from work one fateful night only to meet an empty house. Everything was gone,the furniture, electronics and all.
Gasper left her note, that read "Baby, do not bother trying to find us, hope you get to the peak of your career, Liza will take perfect care of the girls and I like she's always done. All the best Gasper"
Helen recenyly left her job and is struggling at the moment. Gasper married Liza in a traditional marriage
Ps: why do I not feel any iota of sympathy for this woman? Just lick your wounds and move on. You may also ty to make amends if possible, make efforts to find where they are and see if you can still be in their lives.
We must learn how to balance work and family. Women are not the only ones that need attention,men deserve it too.
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ReplyDeleteHelena of Troy, we hail thee!
Oya chop career!
Gbam..
ReplyDeleteWhy did she resign when the damage has been done? At time d crazy for materialism drive us so far away from family only to come back and realized we have laboured for nothing. God help us
ReplyDeleteI don't think d woman should be victimised! So if a wife goes 4 a 3yr phd out of d country and househelp cooks and feeds d man d man should start visiting her locus inquo and marry her... cos she 's d mother of d house ?
ReplyDeleteIt's not easy 4 career women and their families bt career or no career, d man who ll follow secretary or colleague or househelp will still do it. What of d men who leave doting housewives ? What is their reason?
#Devilsadvocate
Na wah. We and our sanctanumius opinions. What of all the men who leave women for no reason. D woman had no reason to resign abeg. Let's criticise D man who could not deal with a career wife but wanted a housewife or a housemaid. Shame.
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DeleteHe's a weak Man and a Cheat...Men should be supportive of their wives career, I'm also very certain she contribute to d running of the home, financially etc.
ReplyDeleteMost women don't set their priorities right. Some hide under the name of career and this is wrong. As a teacher, my mum was also a career woman who ran her home well. How she managed to run that house still baffles me. 1 husband, 7 sons, 3 drivers and 3 househelps plus her church and community services and nothing escapes her eyes in that house. She cooks 90% of what we eat. Goes to the market every Saturday and stocks the house. Jeez! Saturdays! My nightmare. I was her handbag carrier and I had to learn every square inch of Ogbete market. And she still came out tops. Leave excuse. She was picking ants with an elephant on her head. Any career that will push you away from your family, please let it go. It is not worth it.
ReplyDeleteI have read the comments on this blog and as usual many want to kill the woman. I also read one from someone who says that his mom a teacher ran the home well with 3 house helps, 3 drivers and I laughed. Do you know what it means to have 3 house helps and 3 drivers? That means that the woman had more help than most average women. She was a teacher, teachers close when their kids close from school and are at home during holidays and at the time when the world was still sane. That is not a good comparison for the story posted.
ReplyDeleteThe man is just a big cheat, his behavior has nothing to do with his wife's work. If that woman was at home, he would have complained and would have still slept with the house help. So is he trying to say that the affection he has for his wife is tied to her bathing the kids and cooking food? Meanwhile the woman should sue him for abandonment, for taking their kids and absconding without her consent, for marrying another woman while legally married to her. Her own marriage renders his marriage to the house help null and void. He is very stupid. If he is very helpful with the kids and around the house, they wouldn't have needed a house help. They would have been able to take care of their house alone. That a woman is married doesn't mean that her degree should rot underneath her box. A woman is a human being who deserves to be productive.
God bless you! Enlightened thinking here.
DeleteOh dear! I don't know why some women don't get it that marriage is very important. If the marriage is successful, the person will be successful in other things but if the marriage is not successful, it will affect every other thing....Now she has left her job at last. Hmmmmm....I believe she has learnt her lesson n i feel the only remedy is for her to tell GOD to intervene,take control n restore her marriage cos there's nothing impossible for HIM to do!
ReplyDeleteIn addition, its good to have a nanny but let us also remember that it is the wife's duty to take care of her husband, serve him food etc not nanny's job! From the story, the man complained many times which means that she was not doing her duties as a wife.I understand she'll be tired when she gets home but she should also know that no matter how tired she is, she should always try her best to do her duties cos she is the only person that should serve him food n take care of him!
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DeleteSo she should die because she is someone's wife? She got a frigging nanny to assist with all of the domestics at home. What is the crime in that? Lots of myopic thoughts here.
Helen was a victim of circumstances. If she got a job that takes her out of the house early in the morning and brings her back late in the night, how can she manage or marry her job and the family. You can't eat your cake and have it. She should not have resigned after Fred has left with the children and went as far as marrying the Nanny. It's like one crying over a spilt milk. Gaspar on the other hand acted selfishly by getting married to the nanny so soon no matter how far he went in trying to convince Helen to quit the job.
ReplyDeleteHelen was a victim of circumstances. If she got a job that takes her out of the house early in the morning and brings her back late in the night, how can she manage or marry her job and the family. You can't eat your cake and have it. She should not have resigned after Fred has left with the children and went as far as marrying the Nanny. It's like one crying over a spilt milk. Gaspar on the other hand acted selfishly by getting married to the nanny so soon no matter how far he went in trying to convince Helen to quit the job.
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