Dear Lilea’s Blog,
I recently got engaged to a really good man. After eight
months of dating, he popped the question and I accepted; the wedding date has
been fixed for sometime next year.
I love him or so I thought until I met his big brother
Frank, he lives in the UK but recently visited to supervise some of his
projects back here in Nigeria.
It was love at first sight for me, I do not know about him
but I know that I am madly in love with him; the guy is fine! My fiancé was
busy at work and I had to drive him round, he is not only fine, he has a good
sense of humour, generous to the core, gave me three hundred dollars for my
petrol and also made me drive to a nice restaurant. It felt like I was on a romantic
date and ever since I have not been able to get him off my mind.
I want to call off the engagement because it may be too
dangerous to have him as a brother in law more so I may still get a chance at
him. His marriage did not work and so he is very single, rich and eligible. My best
friend thinks that I am crazy and my mum thinks that I need deliverance.
They both say my reason for contemplating calling off the
engagement is flimsy but these people do not know how I feel. I am no longer
emotionally attached to my fiancé and whenever we get intimate, I have to imagine
that he is Frank; it is that bad. My fiancé is a really good man and I feel
terrible that I feel this way about his own blood brother.
My advice to you dear is to stick to your man and pray away
that lust in you, please do not cause any disparity between two brothers. All the
best!
Hmmmmm. Serious matter
ReplyDeleteShe should get a grip! She does not know what Love is. Infatuation more like! Abegi. Make she maintain
ReplyDeleteShe actually need deliverance and inner healing and if it not properly carried out, she may end up at loosing both sides. She should concentrate on her marriage plans with her fiancé instead of shifting her attention on Frank out greed.
ReplyDeleteAla di n'udi Udi. Meaning different types of madness. Not trying judge but what if she calls of the wedding and the next in law is still more attractive than Frank. Or may be this time hubby's friend not a brother. I think a good deliverance pastor is needed here.
ReplyDeleteShe doesn't need advise...its very simple she doesn't have the qualities of a good wife..infidelity dwells in her character; even a blind man can see it. What I have to tell her is to continue.. When the gods want to kill a man they first of all make him mad..its only a stupid and stubborn fly that will follow the corpse to the grave..
ReplyDeleteShe better wake up from this infatuation, this isn't love but lust in the highest order and a bad one at that. She enumerated the physical qualities of the guy what about his character and the rest, why didn't his marriage work?
ReplyDeleteBabe please wake up from this stupidity and concentrate on your man that you have known for years or months. Don't destroy your life with your own hands on the altar of lust. Please don't destroy a happy family for the result might be disastrous.
Follow your heart girl! Please break up with the guy immediately. No point replacing images when you ought not to, its not right, you are cheating and will continue to do so. It's true we can't help who love, and love at first sight is very rare and even worse when it's one-sided.
ReplyDeleteSo break it off, definitely everybody would be wondering what happened, dont tell them, even the brother will call and ask, you can even hint that you fell for someone else but he should keep it a secret and then you stay away from them for a while...like FIFTEEN years(I'm assuming you are like 20, so you'll still be young, yeah?) then you find the brother. If he's still single, tell him, if he's married...still tell him it was him that caused the ogbahara(confusion). I believe love conquers all. Does this sound like a good advice?
One thing you have to note here, if everybody is saying the same thing about the decision you are about to make, you should probably look again, this is not the decision you get to go left because you think it's right(yaba left awaits)
Pray!
I also meant to say that if you thought my advice was ludacris, imagine what I was thinking when I was reading up your reasons.
DeleteMarriage is not just about love ,its about commitment. So if you are nt ready to do both hand-in-hand,I think it's best to let your fiancé go...he actually deserves better. It's not by force to marry if you aren't ready to be committed!
Baby love at First sight abeg your mother is hundred percent right. This is more than the eyes can see. You are just laying a foundation for eventual catastrophe! Be warned! Get delivered from this madness call lust or you will be lost forever
DeleteI don't know what's wrong with the women of this generation. They don't understand what love is all about. For me she's an infidel and never deserved a responsible man. Her mentality about love should be changed before she can manage a home.
ReplyDeleteNne follow your heart since decisions are made whether right or wrong and be brave enough to stand any consequences if any that comes with it. Good luck
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ReplyDeleteUgo Emedosi, this your advise good ooo.. Like I said she should continue. My statement below is not for her but to others reading this blog. I think the best thing for her is for her to call off the engagement with her fiance because for one she is not in love with him. Secondly she should keep away from the brother because she will cause conflict between the two brothers and this will destroy the family.. And this only applies if the brother of the fiance is an irresponsible idiot. Secondly if the brother of the fiance is a responsible man and will not be into her then she will become the usual chop and both brother and fiance will have a taste of her and eventually dumb her for another guy to carry.
ReplyDeleteNNE I honestly; this you should be honest to yourself and feelings, and call the two brothers and tell them the truth in their face!... That way you see,.... They would know what a "horrible woman" you are, and RUNaway from you... Or at best, one of them would choose to ignore, and to ahead and marry you,... Even both, of them may,... You never know, its a strange World!...Goodluck!!!
ReplyDeleteFollow your heart dear. Life is too short for regrets, afterall you are not yet married.
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