Sex with the same sex is a taboo no matter what anyone says or thinks. I always wondered what it would feel like which means I have never experienced it. It used to be a “to do” on my bucket list but it was struck off a while ago.
It is no longer news that same sex relationships are common and especially among women and especially in Nigeria. I know this for a fact, I am a woman and I am Nigerian. Without exaggerating and top of the head estimation, six out of ten women have been touched by a fellow woman; it is no hidden truth.
Some women do not see it as cheating when they do “it “with the same sex and weirdly some men feel the same way too and do not bother when they “catch” wifey with another woman. I have had this discussion with a couple of men and just a few of them said that they wouldn’t forgive that sort of illicit relationship by their wives. One even said that he would ask the wife to bring home her lover (whatever that means).
Frown as much as you may but this is our reality, it happens every day, lesbianism is trending and someone you know is involved in it. It is a pity but not all close female counterparts are as innocent as they seem.
As bad as it is, same sex relationships between females could even be more tolerable, there are side attractions like the boobs and the bum, but I do not see what two men see in each other; bones and muscles?
After the Big Fat Lie story, a married woman shared her predicament. She fantasizes about other women, she has never engaged in any sexual act with a woman but she feels it is an experience she will not regret .., well till you try it you may never know.
It is so serious that she has discussed it with her husband who at first flared up at her but calmed down after a week of ignoring his wife. The problem now is that he suspects every woman he sees her with especially any new friend that she makes. He sits with her when she has a female guest and when he cannot sit through their conversation; he bothers her to let her guest go. It has affected her friendships and she regrets opening up to her husband.
Her husband’s new attitude has made matters worse and she feels even more strongly about it. She wants it just once so she can move on. (Move on indeed!)
My opinion – just forget about it but if you can’t, do it and face the repercussions, both spiritual and physical. Wrong is wrong and you know it when you see it!
It is really trending amongst women. Have seen a lot and just but wonder the joy in it. I have had the privilege of talking to a few and to an extent I feel 40% of women are still confused �� about their sexuality. Like the woman you stated up there, some got into it out of curiosity and got stuck in it. One said men have dealt with her so much in the past and she found comfort and love in the hands of a woman. They feel women are better lovers then men. Never had opportunity of talking to a gay. What baffles me again is that most of these women are married and have children. I try much as possible not to judge but they know my stand on it, such life style is a no go area for me. All I do is to pray for them and hope that someday they would come to terms and desist from it. It is even suffocating in this part of the world we live in because it's a taboo so they hide their identity because they are not accepted so there is no freedom of expression unlike Abroad where they are free. To me such life style here in Naija is choking and I don't wish to be choked up Biko.
ReplyDeleteThis dispensation of grace has made people to live a life of nonsense. Back then, whilst thou art complaining about something, you get paid the right dues(death), even engaging in homosexuality. God just dished out the sentence either immediately or later.
ReplyDeleteNow the world is over populated because of God giving us time to repent...people can be ungrateful.
We have an opportunity to.work out our salvation with fear and trembling each day we wake up. Sin can't be overcome by the flesh but if we seek him for help, he will help.
It's even sad that we can't use some words without getting a look. When I was much younger, the word 'gay' meant 'happy',
Then we could say 'oh girl, u look so gay this morning' then you reply. 'Yeah, so so gay'.
Try it now!
All these issues are just signs of end time period. It will surely come because Bible recorded His words will not go unfulfilled. Very soon it be turn of women and their children and father and daughter and they will see no wrong in it. End time signs Amaka.
ReplyDelete"Curiosity kills" they say ..kills the cat, but the cat has nine lives (I don't know how they came up with that number) deep calls to deep. What's in your heart or heart's desires; good or bad will one day come up to the surface unless there's an override of something stronger over your emotional being.
ReplyDeleteUnless she seeks God's help, the woman above will engage in that cuz her heart is there to explore (to explore wetin? ) this is not the time you'd say a trial will convince you, Mba.
How about married couples that are swingers ...that's another topic.
I'm an adventurous person(in my head) but Im nt interested in trying everything
People like her get caught....her own no go get part 2...and her own catching go be "forwadu March, o bu gini eh? Gawa n'ebe ihu', gini eh? Lawa ulo nnah gi" ...even though other men and women have been engaging in this for a long time.
May God help us all through our secret struggles because it's not easy but its definitely possible to overcome.
I posted something similar to this earlier, it didn't appear, so I hope this one displays
"its no hidden truth...someone yu know is involved" #fact
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