It will never make sense

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It will never make sense to me why a man will lie about his marital status just to get into bed with an innocent woman.

 I say innocent because there are a million and one women who do not give two hoots whether a guy is married or not.

They have needs and once those needs are met, the rest is really nonexistent. These ladies will help protect the man’s identity and image and with them, there is nothing to worry about. They will not come to tell you that they are pregnant or threaten to expose you.

The reason they are this way is because you are not the only one they are sleeping with. You are meeting one or two wants and once you are no longer useful to them, they move on.

My point is that for a man to lie to a woman about his marital status, means one of these: 

he is a chronic liar, ashamed of his family or he knows that the lady in question is too decent to date a married man.

The man knows the only way to get her is to lie through his teeth. 

Men why?

Some men go to the extent of meeting the family formally to state their intentions to marry which makes the shallow minded girl in question all soppy (please pardon my intolerance). 

There is this tenderness that a lady feels when a man proposes; the love is raised to power ten and the world is suddenly a beautiful place. Everything is different and better especially the sex for children of the world who do not abstain like the church teaches (hmm).

Why would a man hide or even deny his family all because he wants to get in between a woman’s legs? 

Shame on such men. The ones who do this are usually very myopic, chronic womanisers. They are either highly irresponsible or lack self confidence.  Everyone knows that a man who knows what he is worth will never hide his family from any girl.

This reminds me of a man I met a very long time ago when I was an undergraduate, who obviously removed his ring just so he could talk to my friend and I. My eyes were on default then. The first place we looked at was the ring hand; the mark on the funny character’s finger was enough proof that he had been married for at least fifteen years. My friend and I had a good laugh to the extent that the man who was giving us a ride to another part of town stopped the vehicle and demanded to know why we were laughing. Lol.

I won’t fail to mention that some women too can lie for Africa. I read very recently about a woman who had an online affair and even accepted a marriage proposal while she was still married. Her online lover had no idea that his new found love had children and was very married, though unhappily married. No happily married woman would go that far with another man.

Lulu in the last story says she has come to the end of the road when it comes to relationships. To her, all men are the same but I do not agree with this notion. There are very decent and extremely good men out there and I pray the right one comes her way. 

Every woman who so desires, has the right to enjoy the love, care and support of a very good man.