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Dear Lilea's blog readers, please what advice will you give a lady in this dilemma?
I am a Mature Single Woman, over forty years and never been married.
I am not ashamed to state that I need a man desperately - Mature Single Women blues
Recently I started dating a very nice young man who has wiped all my tears. He is extremely good and treats me very well.
He recently proposed and then opened up a can of worms; he has a wife and two children in another town.
He has told his wife about us and says she will learn to live with it.
He loves her and will never leave her but wants me too.
I feel really bad for this woman who is as young as my youngest sister and I want to leave him but I'm expecting his baby in about five months.
I am causing another woman pain but cannot really do much about it.
I hope all these makes sense in the end.
From a lady battling with her concience.
Dear Lady battling with her concience, thanks for being honest but truth be told, it will never make sense now and even later!
Gbesere o! Thank God you have a conscience and am sure with this conscience you will make a right decision. The deed has been done, the best I think you would do is to let go, yea it is not easy at all but that's the best sacrifice. Go ahead and have your baby at least that would be a little consolation for you. I don't think you want to get into this kind of battle cause this is not gonna make sense not now nor later. I wish you best of luck
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ReplyDeletePlease please please. Leave this man alone. You are causing a fellow woman heartache and I'm sure you would not want same for yourself or your sisters. Leave this man. He does not mean well. Or maybe he does but he IS married.
ReplyDeleteHow can one love a woman and yet still caused her pain. Its either he ends one of the relationships for the other. Madam Conscience sometimes you love someone enough to let them go. Release him to make his choice and come back to you or leave you for good. If he comes back your conscience will release you.
ReplyDeleteIs polygamy ruled out in Nigeria? I think she should see the 1st wife and talk things over with her. Who knows she might accommodate her than losing her husband. The pregnant maiden here is not to blame for this late disclosure and shouldn't be made to bear the consequences alone. Its better to be a 2nd wife than a righteous baby mama.
ReplyDeleteLet's not forget that this our chic here is advanced. The Igbo adage of rhe blind man and the udara fruit he marched underfoot comes to mind.
My honest one pence.
Put yourself in that woman's shoes, if it hurts you,then delete yourself from the mans CPU, but if you enjoy it,continue. Be rest assured that bad effects are waiting for you.. My opinion. Tnx
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