Former Lovers

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I read on a social media platform that a young lady is not exactly happy with her younger sister for getting engaged to a man who used to be her boyfriend. The two ladies are daughters of a very wealthy Nigerian man and it was reported that the angry sister is happily married but not comfortable with the fact that her sister is set to marry the same man that she once dated.

As much as it is a free world and anyone who is an adult has a right to a relationship with whomever he or she so desires, I strongly believe that there should be a limit to this right. One’s right ceases to be a right when it causes harm or discomfort to the next person.

I am in no way quoting any law but following the line of good reasoning. In this case, I really understand why a sister should be upset that her ex boyfriend is getting married to her sister, but first, it is important to identify the reason why the couple called off the relationship.

If the man in question dumped the first sister for her younger sister then any normal human being should feel bad. It would be safer if it was the sister that dumped the guy though it could still be seen as a taboo by some people.

I have heard people say that any close associate who dates their ex can comfortably date their  husbands. It may or may not be the case.

I shared a story in the past where a lady gave her full support to her elder sister to marry the man that she had dated. She was not ready to settle down and encouraged her sister to settle down with the guy who she considered a very good man and should stay in the family.

Personally if I had to choose, I'd rather have my sister than my friend date or marry my ex. I will never trust a friend who is involved romantically with someone she knows very well that I dated.The only exception is where the relationship was a secretive one then no one should be blamed.

A certain lady let her sister marry a man that she had a secret affair with, she kept the affair under wraps because of the age difference between them. She was way older than the man and so only enjoyed what the young man was able to give without putting much energy into the relationship.

Her younger sister met the man through her when he visited, she acted like the young man was her friend’s kid brother who came to deliver a message to her. When her sister confided in her that she fancied the man she had no choice but to hook them up. Afterwards, she had a few more escapades with the guy and they even had farewell sex.

She says that her sister is very happy in her marriage and so she has vowed to take the secret to her grave. She is also happily married and has never felt uncomfortable around her ex who happens to be her brother in law.

Big sister enjoys a close relationship with the couple which makes baby sister very happy. It may sound awkward and disturbing and some people may even start to bring Okafor’s law into it but it’s been ten years and nothing illicit has happened between the former lovers.