Not ripe for Marriage 2

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Mmanna and Jigide  (not real names) met in the bank where she worked, she stood out as a corper and so everybody loved her. She was always cheerful and willing to take on any assignment that was given to her.

She also did not flaunt the fact that she was obviously a "rich kid". Her cute car was a sign and then when her parents paid her a surprise visit at work it became very clear that Mmanna's family was well to do. Her parents did not leave without first opening an account with a huge sum of money which counted in her favour.

Her humility was endearing, she was very respectful and eager to learn.

Jigide was an assistant manager who was about to lose his job for not meeting his target. While working late one day he got talking with Mmanna and because it was easy to talk to her he told her of his predicament. 

By the following week, Mmanna had gotten for him two huge company accounts from her parents' contacts. 

Jigide was over the moon, it meant a lot to him and he expressed same.

After about one month he asked her out on a date. Their friendship blossomed and by the following year they were discussing marriage.

Jigide got another job in another bank and was promoted. After her service year, Mmanna was employed as a full time staff in the same bank  where she served.

Jigide, an only son in a family of four children wasted no time in showing his true colours. At the slightest irritation he told Mmanna that she would not control him just because she helped save his job.

He would talk down on her and say that she had everything she needed in life to succeed and so not qualified to speak on certain issues.

It became obvious that he was jealous of his wife's family background. She had what he never had. His father was a cashier in a private hospital while his mother had a small provision store.

In his eyes Mmanna could never get it right and would not let her be herself

When she bought a new car for herself because her old car kept breaking down on the road he was livid. He called her spoilt without considering how long she had to endure driving a car which was not in top form. He kept telling her to manage but when she could no longer bear it, she took an action.  

Mmanna kept all the emotional and verbal abuse she suffered to herself for fear of disappointing her parents.

Her parents eventually discovered that their daughter was unhappy when Mmanna became pregnant. Ugolisa paid her hospital bills in the US and arranged for her to have her baby there for she was diagnosed with pre-eclampsia. 

Any reasonable man would have been super excited to get some help and an assurance that his wife would get the best care in her condition.

She was slated to leave early so it wouldn't be too dangerous to fly. To everyone's surprise Jigide objected to the plan and accused the family of disrespecting him.

His wife told him of the plans but he refused to have anything to do with it. His mother and sisters were even worse; they called her spoilt because she used yam pounder instead of pestle and mortar. They also accused her of trying to control them with money when she sent some money to her mother- in-law to fix their leaking roof.

After a lot of meetings of both families, Jigide finally gave his approval for his wife to have their baby abroad. 

It was rough for Mmanna in the eighteen months that she was married to Jigide. He checked her phones everyday and deleted any phone number that belonged to a man.

He would wake her from sleep in the middle of the night to make him food. He called her names and criticised her cooking even when nothing was left on his plate.

At the airport with her parents, her father apologised to her for letting her off so early, she was twenty two then and her husband who refused to come with her to the airport had just turned thirty.

As Mmanna sat in the airplane on her way to the US, she knew that she may never see her husband again and she wept for the beautiful life with Jigide that she never had.

Me: hmm...tough luck. Don't stay with him. Not worth it! He may get worse. Your future is bright and God's got yourback!