I will never Forget _Conclusion

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It started from the reduced phone calls and then the constant missed calls that Sly never returned. He was a really straight forward person but without been told I knew that another woman was in the picture, I was surprised though because in all our years together we never had issues that involved another woman.

Sly visited me unannounced on a certain day, he looked really sad and I knew that something was  very wrong. Sly told me that he had to come and tell me face to face that a corper he had a one night stand with got pregnant.  

The girl in question had very strict parents who would hear nothing but marriage from the perpetrator of the act. Sly said that he could not let the poor girl down and so had to marry her immediately. At this time he had gotten a really good job offer from the financial firm where he was still serving.

To say that I was devastated is to say the least, I became depressed and could no longer complete my service. I asked for an extension and had to go home to my family where I was basically nursed and counselled back to life by my family. 

A year later, I went back to the same company that I had served and completed my service. After my service, I was employed by the same organisation and then I started to pick the pieces of my broken life very gradually.

I went back to my old life before Sly, no social functions and no friends; I just wanted to be by myself and I made my work my companion. In two years I was promoted twice and in the fourth year I became a managing partner of the same company. Life should have been good but there was something missing, Sly was a big part of my life that could not just go away. He was doing well and I was too; we should be celebrating our successes and living the life that we planned but he had to spoil it all with a one night or several nights stand.

For years I hated Sly, I prayed evil on him, I struggled to forget him or what he did to us and worse still I was so sure that no other man would want me.

I recently turned thirty eight years old and on my birthday at exactly twelve midnight, it was Sly who woke me up from sleep. I still had his phone number; I stared at my phone and contemplated if I should pick his call or not, when he called yet again for the fifth time I picked his call and sounded as normal as I could. After saying that he wanted to be the first person to wish me a happy birthday I could not believe the next things that he said.

Sly told me that he made the biggest mistake of his life, his wife and her family were out to ruin him; her parents made him place them on salaries and he also had to pay tokens to her three siblings every month. She prevented his mother or any of his siblings from coming to their home and the day he challenged her for being rude to his mother on the phone she showed up in his office and disgraced him, she screamed and accused him of always beating her. She did the same thing a couple of times till he was asked to resign from work but at the time of the call he had recently gotten another good job.

Sly went on to say that he stumbled upon his wife's phone and read her conversation with a man which confirmed that she was having an affair. He forcefully had a DNA done on their child and discovered he did not father the child after all. He said that in all the years that he had been married to her that he had not been with her up to ten times and on the days he did it with her he had to be intoxicated with alcohol.

I cannot not believe that Sly wants me back in his life again after all these years; he told me that he was prepared to travel to see my parents and formally ask for my hand in marriage. He married his wife traditionally and had also divorced her traditionally; his family asked for a return of the bride and performed all the traditional divorce rites.

I ended the call while he was still speaking and could not go back to sleep. I have refused to take his calls but he sends me text messages begging and asking me to give him another chance, he says that we are made for each other which makes me very angry. He has also gotten in touch with my family and because they really want me to get married, my mother especially has made it her duty to try to convince me to marry Sly. She says that I am not getting any younger and goes on to say that maybe we were meant to be married.

Right now I am so confused, it’s been over six years, I have never been with any other man and I am prepared to stay that way than go back to the man that nearly sent me to a mental institute but the pressure is getting too much and if I succumb I doubt I will have a loving home. I went through a lot of emotional and mental trauma that I am not able to disclose and will never forget.  

Yours Truly,

Jae