Madam new Wifey

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After reading some of the comments on the man who can no longer live with his step daughter I was left with unanswered questions.

Many Lilea's blog readers reached out privately to say that the man acted nobly. The temptation was too much and so he cried out for help. They are of the opinion that it must have taken a lot for him to speak out.

The only other option would have been to aim for the young lady's punani. A real pervert may start trying to lure the young lady with gifts and all till she succumbs. 

A man they say will always be a man and my people will go further to say that Mr. Dogood did not go to school and should not be expected to act all posh and descent all of the time.

When Mr. Dogood is up and ready for action every sense of decency disappears. Dogood has no business with the face, it faces its duties squarely without fear or favour regardless of race, religion, qualification or status.

Now let's flip the coin and try to answer some of my questions.

Is a woman allowed to feel that way? No! Is it okay for a woman to confide in her husband that she's sexually attracted to his young son. No again.

Will she be applauded for being truthful? Of course not.. she'll be called wayward and even regarded as being possessed by a spirit of waywardness.

Sometimes it's hard to be a woman especially in Nigeria because we are expected to be wired differently. A woman who expresses such feeling over her step son will not hear the last of it and possibly be disgraced out of her home.

Even her own immediate family may disown her for exhibiting such a strange behaviour. She will have to do a lot to convince people that she acted in her right senses.

While I do not condemn the man entirely for being open I must ask that people are also able to tolerate the woman when she finds herself in such a position, afterall what is good for the geese is good for the gander.

A lady I'm talking to now mistakenly slept with her husband's first cousin. They were home for the holidays and there was a party; while in the open field watching the fireworks, the naughty in law who she met for the first time that day raised her flowing skirt and had a quickie with madam new wifey with both of them facing forward. 

The next day he left their hometown and went back to base. Madam new wifey hated herself the next day even though she enjoyed the adventure of the night before. She had a bit too much to drink (adults please say no to alcohol) and did not try to stop him at any time.

She could not live with the guilt and confessed to her husband a month later. 

Me: Big mistake my darling!!! We are Africans, we don't confess such to mere mortals most especially the hubby. We confess to God who will not judge us. 

Hubby will not look at her face again, he has asked for a traditional divorce but has refused to disclose to his family his reason for the divorce.

Madam wifey has comtemplated suicide once and is sure she may actually try to kill herself.

Me: suicide solves nothing.

Still on the matter and hoping it ends well