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I recently watched a video of Zizi
Cardow where the foremost Nigerian fashion designer spoke on an issue about a
woman whose partner told he wouldn’t be able to keep on living under the same roof with the woman’s
daughter. Apparently the woman has a grown
up daughter from a previous relationship who lives with her and her new
partner.
The interesting part of this
story is the reason why the woman’s significant other (not sure if they are
married or not) can no longer live with her supposedly step daughter. He is attracted to her and cannot
possibly control himself around her. He literally wants to sleep with the young
lady and was bold enough to tell his partner that her daughter should move out
of their home because she has become a major temptation to him.
In the video Zizi was livid about
the whole drama and stated that such a man is a beast. While I may agree with her to an extent, I
will also like to state that a good number of men are like that but the only
difference between them and this particular guy is either self control or the
ability to pretend. It is possible that a lot of men
who are involved with women with grown up daughters may start to get attracted
to the daughters.
While some are cultured enough to fight the meaningless desire to a
finish, some do not have such power. Some may foolishly try their luck to see
if such a daughter is game and would play ball; while a few like Woody Allen
and Morgan Freeman may be lucky at their foolish game, some others may have
their hands burnt badly.
Some men may just have a one off desire
while some may just learn to live with the feeling that will never go away. Such
men are tortured each time the young lady serves food or gives a teddy bear hug
to a “daddy” who is tired from work. Such men will also always have to remind Mr. Dogood
to behave when it responds to a hug or the sight of bum shorts around the
house.
My question is this “has this man
acted nobly by accepting that he has a weakness and cried out to his wife to
save him from falling into temptation or is he truly a beast who does not
deserve to be with any woman?
Keep a piece of yam near a goat..
ReplyDeleteIn our society, the man is a beast, he isn't supposed to have such feeling towards the step daughter, but generally speaking, there is no blood tie between the 2, meaning that the feeling might come especially if the girl is grown up. I believe that a man should have self control on all women around him. That been said, I think he acted nobly by crying out, but this won't go well with the wife and daughter cos they will see him as a pervert. Being in the wife s position, I wouldn't keep my grown up daughter under same roof when am not too sure of the man am with. Women should be more careful in exposing there teenagers to strangers, in and outside their homes.
ReplyDeleteThere is no nobility in his actions. For a child that calls you *father". Some men should sometimes at least have a Bit of self control. They should know that nothing is hidden under the sun. "The evil that men do live with them". He was just acting out. For mothers, some level of sacrifice for our girl child will go a long way to prevent such occurrence. May God help us.
ReplyDeleteThis is an ALU melu situation!
ReplyDeleteI really need to understand this. Did the man say he wanted to have a relationship with her or just saying they can't stay under the same roof because he is having this issue? If he just having issues and stating it clearly, I don't think he should be crucified for that. He is saying it out loud to prevent it from happening. Which I think is the case with a man that states clearly that he does not want a sexy maid in his house. He is fleeing from the temptation by saying it out loud that he doesn't want this lady under his roof.
ReplyDeleteThe man in question has not done anything wrong,infact he should be commended for identifying a potential hazard in his house(safety first). since both doesn't have any blood relationship,anything can as well happen if care isn't taken. If all men are like him,most of the abuses women face would've been eliminated.
ReplyDeleteI feel the man did the right thing.. Prevention is better than having telling stories that toych the heart.. His action is noble.
ReplyDeleteThis man was honest and courageous enough to recognise and admit he has a thing for the young girl. This is rare. If I was the girls mother I would count myself very lucky.why? 1. The man and girl could have gone into an illicit relationship. 2. The man could have raped the girl. In my view, he should be commended for trying to prevent any damage to his marriage. Men are generally very hypocritical about sex and their preferences. That's why a man can sleep with his wife's sister, the househelp , his kids school teacher e.t.c. let's be real, pls.
ReplyDeleteI don't understand some people ooooo
ReplyDeleteThat this thing is much for me let's look for solution is it a bad thing???
Am so happy with this man for the courage. .. don't tempt me is what he did and he is a noble man for me
I don't understand some people ooooo
ReplyDeleteThat this thing is much for me let's look for solution is it a bad thing???
Am so happy with this man for the courage. .. don't tempt me is what he did and he is a noble man for me
The man has done nothing wrong and should be commended although is generally not to be trusted and admits to having limited self control
ReplyDeleteThe lady should take this as a sign and runnnnnnn......pack out with her daughter and trust God for a God fearing man with control