Control is control

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Almost every woman likes to be in charge of the home. They want to give approval before anything happens. 

Some women will take charge of a building project from start to finish and even handle the interior design and decoration of the home whether they have good taste or not. No other opinion matters but theirs.

That is why you go into some homes and wonder how such wealthy people have very poor taste. 

Some women do have good taste and so it's not a problem if they undertake such tasks. 

For some men you must first speak to their wives before you get any favour from them. Mumuism. 

They give excuses that they want peace in their homes and so have to defer to their wives and do their bidding.

If the wife says give he gives and if she says no then he will not. That is so wrong in my opinion. This is remote control.

Some stingy men enjoy this shield and so they hide behind the wives just to avoid giving.

A man I know once had a lot of students who benefited from his scholarship programme.  He paid school fees and bought everything on their list for school.

When he got married to his second wife, the iron lady took charge and it delighted her to cut everyone's list into half saying that her husband was no Father Christmas. Her poor husband had no choice but comply. Iberibeism.

She turned him into a demi-god and made him inaccessible to his beneficiaries and even his own family.

A lot of women will choose their husbands' clothes (Not a problem if they are fashionistas) and the occasions they will attend. It makes them feel powerful.

It's depressing to hear a full grown man say I'll talk to my wife first. It's either of two things. They do not want to commit to that particular thing or they are real cowards. 

I'm in no way suggesting that men should disrespect their wives but a man should be able to know what is right and if not sure seek his wife's opinion. A man should let his wife know what he's up to just so it does not come across as a rude or disrectpectful shock.

A man should also know the character of the woman that he is married to. That will let him know if she has good or bad counsel.

It is sad to see a man defend his wife who is lazy and very badly behaved. The common statement is "my wife doesn't like wahala" or "leave my wife, I like her the way she is". It's almost like such men are blind and do not see what the rest of the people see.

It will never make sense why a wife will favour her own family more than her husband's family. It's very common and the worst is the man acts like he does not know.

To a large extent every woman good or bad controls her husband and the reason is obvious; bottom power.

There is a lot of hidden power in between the legs of a woman and those who know use it effectively.

In there men become babies, crying and asking for more rounds. In there men make all sorts of promises, denounce their faith and even their families.

In there kings are made, people are murdered, heads roll and some people's fates are decided. 

There's also another type of power that the women have which the men defer to. The power to destroy peace. Simply by not speaking or laughing or cooking and taking away the very substance of the home a woman puts a man in a confused state. He will not have peace till he succumbs to her wish.

However, it takes a man of strength to overcome the blackmail of a woman.

To the women who hold their husbands by the balls, one day another beautiful woman will hold your own sons hard on their balls. Haha! Hope you will not complain then?

To the women who do not care what their husbands are up to, please shine your eyes and be sure that oga is not being controlled by a jezebel outside. There must be a good balance.

To those who wish to control but can't, take heart and make do with the much control you have even if it's just in the kitchen. 

Control is control even if you are only in charge of the television remote control.

Me: I can control my own husband if it will make me lose weight. Lol! I do not tell him what to do, we discuss issues and hear each other out. Even if we have our differences, we still find a meeting point. I will never blackmail him into doing what I want and vice versa.

I blackmail him for other reasons best known to me.

I will not prevent him from doing good but I will also not be prevented from saying to him "I told you so" if he gets it wrong.

Finally, women while you control your man today please be prepared for the day when you will be at the mercy of another woman's control.