Side Fowl

Some of the best moments in life are the ones you can’t tell anyone about. – unkwown. I am almost certain that the late CEO whose death recently made the headlines had that sort of moment shortly before he passed on to the other side of eternity in the most horrible way; going from pure pleasure of the flesh to the great beyond is exceedingly difficult to comprehend.

According to Vance K Jackson, Lust kills destiny and indeed, lust ended the young man’s destiny abruptly. I call it lust because nothing suggests that the pair were in love. This is easily the most senseless death I’ve read about this year and this is not to undermine the senseless and gruesome killings of Nigerian citizens by unidentifiable hoodlums.

It is most senseless to me because it could have been easily avoided if good sense and reasoning were applied at some point. It is understandable when one is attacked by an enemy but what was meant to be a time of wild fun with an acquaintance was never meant to end so tragically. I imagine that it was not the lovers’ first time together, they must have spent some time previously and so I am almost certain that they were both looking forward to spending another sinfully sweet time together again. I still wonder why sin appears to be a lot of fun.

Recently the picture of the late CEO’s wife was circulated online and people were shocked at how beautiful she is, a lot of people began to ask why a man would have such a wife and still cheat on her. We all know that it is not about having a beautiful wife or a handsome husband; things are not always what they seem, a beautiful wife may be a demon in disguise and a handsome husband may just be a beast on the loose, I never judge a book by its cover.

It only takes someone who is well grounded and deeply rooted in Christ to be able to resist the desires of the flesh. The bible says that the spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak so, it takes a lot to desist from biting the bait. The easiest way to fight the desires of the flesh is to see unnecessary sex as jumping from a ten-storey building or off a bridge. Of course, it takes a lot of self-discipline to get to that level of spirituality especially with the way male mind functions. Sometimes I think that a man, lives, sleeps, dreams and breathes sex. In a recent conversation about the rate of immorality around the world currently with a nonagenarian (over ninety years), he told me that he would gladly look at a naked woman if the opportunity arises, I finally gave up on men.

Back to the late CEO, Usifo Ataga, I am definitely not one to judge more so, a man that is dead. There could be a million and one reasons why he was seeing this young lady. There could be some animosity between the victim and his wife and there could none, who knows? I have heard people say that most men are more loving or even love their wives more when they keep another woman, that sounds more stupid than strange, right? Well I have heard some men stand by their convictions that they love their wives better when they keep a side chic. Their argument is that the guilt they feel afterwards make them act better with their wives. There is also the opportunity to compare and the fact that their wives are far better behaved than these side hoes makes them love their wives even more, still sounds stupid right?

I have also heard some men say that the side fowls are willing to do anything and everything that they ask them to do no matter how degrading the act is. This is where my problem lies, personally I believe it should be a no holds barred in the bedroom with married couples and I do not think any sexual act between them should be an abomination except for a few things; anal sex (some may not agree), blumpkin and coprophilia (something to do with poop and sex) or flagellation (flogging during sex) but guess what? These are some of the things that these side turkeys do with the husbands.

When I hear some ladies say that there are things that they cannot do in the bedroom, I get worried. There are a lot of women who think that it is wrong to have oral sex because of religious orientation, I once came across a saying that a real woman is her man’s personal porn star and I totally agree. Sometimes vulnerable husbands get what they want outside of the marriage. Some men know that they have wild expectations and would rather pay to get what they want, how and when they want it without any talking too much.

I have heard some people judge and blame the handsome CEO for being a philanderer and the annoying thing is that a lot of the people, men and women who have blamed him for his own death have done worse things than the deceased. My people say that all dogs eat poop but the guilty one is the dog that has poop on its mouth. Those who have even more than one side fowl have condemned the dead only to go back into the arms of their illegal punani sooner than expected.

I hate that the victim’s wife had to be pulled into this whole drama and into all the conspiracy theory. The deceased’s family needs to be left alone to mourn their late loved one in peace. I hate that life had to be snuffed out of the promising young man; I’m sure he had more dreams and unexecuted plans.

Recently, I read that the deceased was estranged from his wife for four years prior to his death, his friends also testified that he was a health enthusiast, a certified boxer and martial arts expert who never did drugs because he knew the dangerous effects it had to his healthy lifestyle. I believe this report that the man never did drugs, and he was drugged before he was killed; reminds me of Samson and Delilah.

I feel sorry for the very naïve girl who was probably manipulated to commit the heinous crime by external forces stronger than her, physical or otherwise. Some of these young girls think that maturity is about big bums and boobs or knowing how to service a guy in the bedroom, they are just empty and unintelligent. How do you do anything to jeopardize your chances with a guy who will possibly provide for you somehow. It is a pity that an average girl from an average home in Nigeria hopes to find a wealthy man who will take care of her needs; ripple effects of poverty and bad upbringing.

It is also pertinent to note that most of the youth of today have removed God from their lives, some even doubt the existence of God and so they engage in all sorts of frivolity in the name of fun. Now someone is dead, a son, brother, father, friend, boss, benefactor etc and a young girl’s life is at a standstill, filled with regrets and uncertainty.

If a relationship is not working out, whether marriage or not, just walk away and do not kill! Do not even try to fix it, just walk very far away!